Vol III: The Impacts of Unhealed Trauma & Ways to Cope
We all go through experiences in our life. Whether it is during our childhood and up to our adult years, we all have different experiences and lessons that we have faced to help mold us into who we are today. A lot of us unknowingly have certain traits (both good and bad) that we have picked up along our journey that might impact how we adjust to everyday life. I can attest that I’ve gone through situations that I honestly didn’t know where it stemmed from. Being raised by a single mother both had it’s ups and downs. Learning how to be independent and self-motivated proved to help drastically in my growth, my career, and as a woman. However, some traits can backfire into relationships and/or friendships. So it’s always good to take a step back and reassess yourself.
Unhealed trauma comes in many forms. It can cause low self-esteem, resist positive change, trouble asking for help, fear of failure, hurting others, and fear of success. Often when people go through things there is some degree of blockage or walls that they quickly result to when things are not going as planned.
The beauty of it all is being able to sit in your current state and recognize things that you have to work on internally. A lot of people don’t recognize the unhealed trauma that they possess because it’s more than likely passed down from generation to generation. When a person’s emotional health has been compromised the thought of “getting through it” without resolving the trauma that has occurred will continue to allow the wounds to fester and spill into relationships/friendships with others. We all want happiness and peace of mind. The only way to release unhealed trauma is to be acceptive of what triggers are there and to acknowledge that it is okay.
Here are some suggestions that have helped me along the way:
First and foremost, ACKNOWLEDGE your weak areas and don’t shy away from working to resolve it whether you talk to a therapist or someone you feel comfortable with.
Share your story - whether it is through a diary or another form that will allow you to release all energy.
Be emotionally resilient - Be able to go through all feelings rather than push them aside. Your emotions can guide you through the healing process.
Develop new hobbies that will become self-soothing.
Take time for yourself - use this moment to love yourself and be happy in your journey.
